Thoughts, stories, and takes — unfiltered and unapologetically queer.
People always talk about "the moment" you come out. The big reveal. The conversation. But nobody tells you that you'll come out hundreds of times — to colleagues, to new friends, to a cashier who asks if you have a girlfriend. Every single time is its own tiny act of courage. And I've decided every single one is worth celebrating.
Read more →With dating apps and mainstream acceptance, some people ask: do we still need gay bars, gay clubs, gay everything? My answer is an emphatic YES. There is something irreplaceable about being in a room full of people who just… get it. Who share a history. Who you don't have to explain yourself to. These spaces are sanctuaries, and I'll defend them forever.
Read more →I expected glitter, floats, and a general sense of festivity. What I didn't expect was to cry three times before noon. The first time was seeing an elderly couple — clearly together for decades — marching hand in hand like it was the most natural thing in the world. Because it is. Because it always was. Pride does something to you.
Read more →It does get better. But also — and nobody says this enough — it gets different. You stop waiting for permission to exist. You stop apologising for taking up space. You build a chosen family that loves you so fiercely it fills every gap left by people who couldn't. Happy Valentine's Day to us. We made it.
Read more →An ally isn't a label you give yourself — it's a verdict other people reach about you based on your actions. Showing up to one Pride doesn't make you an ally. Defending your gay friends when it's uncomfortable, educating yourself without being asked, using your privilege to amplify queer voices — that's allyship. The bar is doing, not announcing.
Read more →In a world that has spent centuries telling us to hide, to be ashamed, to tone it down — being loudly, joyfully, embarrassingly gay is radical. Dancing badly at a gay bar. Holding your partner's hand in public. Wearing the rainbow pin on your work lanyard. Refusing to make yourself smaller for anyone else's comfort. This is resistance. This is power. This is us.
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